Get Back Together With ex - Should You Date in the Middle of Separation?
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Max Corvis
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Published on November 9, 2008
Breakup is possibly the roughest obstacle in any relationships More than that, it feels like torment for you
Breakup is possibly the roughest obstacle in any relationships. More than that, it feels like torment for you. You're in bitter depression, feel absolutely hopeless and think that situation is unsalvageable… But the truth is - it isn't. You can reverse it today.
I get a lot of questions from people regarding their situations. One of the most frequent questions I get is: "What if I date while being in the breakup? Does dating hurt my chances of successful reconciliation or improves them?" And that's a good question to answer…
So - here's my answer…
I know this is not popular advice to date while you're in separation, breakup etc. It sounds so counterintuitive to us and to our emotions… We are afraid of the anger that our ex may show… That it will push them away, make them more distant from us.
But please stop for a moment, calm down and think through the whole situation again… If you're angry (of become angry) when they see us dating… What does that mean?
It means they still care about us! Right?
In fact, they would stay calm in such kind of situation only if they were completely indifferent to us! Understand?
More than that, it doesn't really matter what they say, what they're talking about…
But the fact is - in many cases when people start dating again quickly after the breakup, their ex starts to stalk them… Yes!
And get the simple thing: of course you can convince them logically that you're not offended nor by your breakup but the fact is - your action speaks a whole lot louder (and that's when you start dating again, see the clue?). They actually see that you're ok, not only hear that. And that's the power, my friend! That's the key.
You literally show them that you're okay with the situation and are moving on with your life… And this basically means that in fact you may become unavailable for them forever. This in and of itself makes you "hard to get", therefore their interest grows insanely, because we WANT what we can't get or need to fight for!
Even if they seem upset, anxious and angry, it's what we're after! Because it is a true sign that they start to care about us again - and very possibly will chase us… To rejoin! Do you get the point? I really hope so!
And couple more interesting things for your information...
Dating with someone else actually does the work of changing you inside. For example:
- It destroys the strong overwhelming anxiety and fear of "staying all alone forever"
- You free your focus of your ex and refocus (at least temporarily) on another person thus feeling better (because you're no longer "caged", no longer stuck in the breakup, see?)
- You have a freedom of choice whether to stay with your current partner or move to another one
And, if you ask me, this position is much better in terms of attracting partners to you and creating a new healthy and happy long-lasting relationships with them!
So…
That's it! That's the thing I wanted to tell you. Hope this helps. Good luck, my dear reader!
I get a lot of questions from people regarding their situations. One of the most frequent questions I get is: "What if I date while being in the breakup? Does dating hurt my chances of successful reconciliation or improves them?" And that's a good question to answer…
So - here's my answer…
I know this is not popular advice to date while you're in separation, breakup etc. It sounds so counterintuitive to us and to our emotions… We are afraid of the anger that our ex may show… That it will push them away, make them more distant from us.
But please stop for a moment, calm down and think through the whole situation again… If you're angry (of become angry) when they see us dating… What does that mean?
It means they still care about us! Right?
In fact, they would stay calm in such kind of situation only if they were completely indifferent to us! Understand?
More than that, it doesn't really matter what they say, what they're talking about…
But the fact is - in many cases when people start dating again quickly after the breakup, their ex starts to stalk them… Yes!
And get the simple thing: of course you can convince them logically that you're not offended nor by your breakup but the fact is - your action speaks a whole lot louder (and that's when you start dating again, see the clue?). They actually see that you're ok, not only hear that. And that's the power, my friend! That's the key.
You literally show them that you're okay with the situation and are moving on with your life… And this basically means that in fact you may become unavailable for them forever. This in and of itself makes you "hard to get", therefore their interest grows insanely, because we WANT what we can't get or need to fight for!
Even if they seem upset, anxious and angry, it's what we're after! Because it is a true sign that they start to care about us again - and very possibly will chase us… To rejoin! Do you get the point? I really hope so!
And couple more interesting things for your information...
Dating with someone else actually does the work of changing you inside. For example:
- It destroys the strong overwhelming anxiety and fear of "staying all alone forever"
- You free your focus of your ex and refocus (at least temporarily) on another person thus feeling better (because you're no longer "caged", no longer stuck in the breakup, see?)
- You have a freedom of choice whether to stay with your current partner or move to another one
And, if you ask me, this position is much better in terms of attracting partners to you and creating a new healthy and happy long-lasting relationships with them!
So…
That's it! That's the thing I wanted to tell you. Hope this helps. Good luck, my dear reader!